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Text God™ VIP Program by Robbie Hemingway
WHAT TO TEXT A
GIRL A PRIMER
ON THE INSIDE
= WHAT SHE’S THINKING
= DATING BEFORE TEXTING
= WHY TEXTING MAKES IT TOUGH
= DEALING WITH FEELINGS
= THE FIVE PHASES OF TEXTING
= HOW TO BEAT THE ODDS
= A KEY PSYCHOLOGICAL HACK
= CONDITIONING HER FEELINGS
= GETTING HER ADDICTED
= TAP INTO HER PLEASURE CENTER
= STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
= BE UNPREDICTABLE
= CREATE ANTICIPATION
= IF SHE STOPS RESPONDING
= NEXT STEPS
TEXT GOD VIP
There was a time in my life when I thought that text messaging was worse
than chewing on aluminum foil. Therapists live to have patients with the
range of terrible emotions that it inﬂicted upon me.
! Confusion: sitting there, looking down at my phone. “come up with
! something !clever… come on… what should I SAY to her?”
! Self-Loathing: just sent a text, not sure if it’s the right one “did I really
! just send that? stupid stupid stupid.”
! Anxiety: haven’t heard back from her in one hour, twenty two
! minutes, and thirty four seconds. “Oh God. I blew it. should I send
! another text and apologize? wait, my phone just buzzed! Is it her?!
! Ahhh, crap, it’s a free AT&T notiﬁcation. I hate those guys, getting my
! hopes up like that.”
Nothing you haven’t experienced before, right?
And heck, if you turn on your phone right now and open up your
"contacts"... I'm willing to bet there's at least one girl stored away in there
who you're really attracted to.
Maybe you even have a straight-up crush on one of the girls saved in your
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But right now, it's just a number. You've got it tucked away safely in your
phone, so what next?
Well, for years and years men debated ﬁercely over the big dating question
of the 20th century: "How long should I wait before I call her?"
But it's the 21st century now, and a new question is clawing at single men
around the world:
"WHAT DO I TEXT HER?"
As one of New York’s top dating coaches, I’ve talked to more guys in recent
years about this very topic than anything else.
I’ve also talked to a lot of women about it. And they all know what’s up:
Most guys are clueless when it comes to texting. Our screw-ups, awkward
texts, and failed attempts are the hot topic of conversation on girls night
But with this report, and all of the material I’m putting it out on texting, I
want to change that. Because it’s not our fault.
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Sure, there are some artsy poet laureate's out there who “just get it”... but
for the rest of us, it’s a struggle.
The good news: there are some amazing breakthroughs in psychology that
are going to turn the tables in your favor.
But before we can get to those, I want to give you a “lay of the land.”
Understanding this stuff is your ﬁrst step towards having an unfair
advantage, so pay close attention.
WHAT SHE’S THINKING
WHEN YOU’RE TEXTING HER
You absolutely have to understand this:
When she gave you her number, it wasn’t a binding contract to see you
I can guarantee that she was not thinking “I really hope to have this guy’s
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She was experiencing positive emotions with
you. When you got her number, her feelings
toward you were pretty good. And she thought
to herself “I’d like to see this guy again.”
Congrats! You made a girl like you.
Then she went off to meet her friends, or to class or work. A day or two
passed. Her mood changed a hundred different times. And those positive
feelings she had towards you began to fade away.
But it might be even worse than that. She might be getting texts from an ex
she’s not totally over, and ﬁve other guys who also have her number. She
might have had a date lined up for the night after you met her. Heck, she
might not even remember giving you her number.
So by the time your ﬁrst text to her arrives, her feelings about you
have changed. She just doesn’t feel as strongly as she did about you in
the moment when you got her number.
And what is the typical ﬁrst text message that a guy sends?
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Short and simple. Cool. Yet it does absolutely nothing to get her feeling
good about him again. Not surprising that girls think it’s the worst ﬁrst text
of all time. Let’s look at another one:
“Hey Jen, it’s John from the bar the other night. Great to meet you!
Want to get together on Tuesday?”
It’s got a little more personality than “hey.” But again, it doesn’t do anything
to change her mood, her emotions, or her feelings towards him.
And when it comes to making decisions, people are not logical - especially
when it comes to love and dating.
A girl’s not sitting there with a spreadsheet, doing an analysis of the
different guys she could be dating, so she can decide who she’s going to
see on Wednesday night.
Nope, decisions like who to text back, who to go out with, who to
sleep with, and who she wants as a boyfriend are emotionally-driven
Let’s consider another ﬁrst text. I have a ﬁrst text formula, which I used to
come up with this one, and I gave it to a client. The night prior, he’d met a
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girl who was wearing this stunning dress, hit it off with her, and walked
away with a great number. His ﬁrst text read:
“ur dress last night = weapon of mass destruction. i trust you put it
somewhere that the CIA won’t find it”
Good ﬁrst text? You betcha. It does so many little things right, but the
most important thing it does is to make her smile, and giggle. It activates
her emotional circuitry. It makes her feel something.
A great start. But there’s still a long ways to go.
WHAT WAS DATING LIKE BEFORE TEXTING?
Let’s recap: when a girl decides she wants to go out with you, it’s a
decision that’s driven by her feelings and emotions towards you.
So basically, you have the best chance of getting her to say “yes” when
she’s feeling really good about you.
Let’s take a little journey back in time to see how this worked before text
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It’s 1984 again. Ronald Reagan just won re-election,
theatre-goers can’t stop talking about Ghostbusters,
and text messaging is unheard of. Caller ID is still a
ways in the future. Even the answering machine
hasn’t caught on yet. You called someone, and either
they picked up, or you called back.
I was only four back then, but I’m told that in such
ancient times, there were very few points of contact between when you’d
meet a girl, and when you’d go out on a date.
You met her and took her number. You talked once or twice on the phone.
And then you went out with her. Bada boom, bada bing.
So her feelings towards you - and whether she went out with you or not -
would depend on only one or two phone calls.
A woman would use this time to “screen” a guy out if he acted creepy or
nervous, had a terrible phone voice, or otherwise made her feel “bad” on
Those one or two phone calls were the only “data points” she could use
when deciding if she wanted to see a guy again.
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I remember calling girls back in college (texting didn’t really catch on until I
was in my mid twenties). It was deﬁnitely stressful, because you knew you
had twenty minutes to rekindle the feelings she had when you met her, and
ask her out again. But if you did well on that phone call, it was all good.
Ok, fast forward to modern times. On any given day, you get more calls,
beeps and notiﬁcations on your smart phone than most people got in two
weeks back in 1984.
In a little bit, we’re going to learn about how this makes for all sorts of
interesting psychological “loopholes” that you can use to make girls really,
really like you. The science is going to blow you away.
But for now, let’s think about how text messaging changes the “dating
game” - and not in your favor.
WHY TEXTING HAS MADE IT
MORE DIFFICULT FOR US GUYS
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Before text messaging, asking a girl out used to take place over a single,
20-minute phone call. But now it takes place over the course of days, with
a bunch of tiny little messages.
This is both a blessing and a curse. If you’re great at texting, you can
make her like you a lot more than you can with a mere phone call. We’ll
get to that in a little bit.
But there are also a lot more opportunities to screw it up.
You can send a crappy ﬁrst text, and ruin it from the start.
You can text too much, too soon, and make her think you’re needy.
You can text too little, too late, and cause her to lose interest or get bored.
You can send texts that are weird, misunderstood, or offensive (without
And you can screw it up at any point. You might do ok for ﬁve texts, then
send a sixth one that totally kills it. Things might go great all the way
through the ﬁrst date, then get ruined when you’re asking her out on the
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Heck, I’ve seen clients who screw it up after they’ve had sex with a girl
because they were texting the wrong thing. The following critique came
from a client - this was the text exchange the day after he slept with a girl
for the ﬁrst time. He tried to be cool and nonchalant, but actually came
across like a dick.
Her: Shit. Can you check your bag/car for my cell charger?????
Her: Just kidding I found itttt
Client: haha ok
& Niiiiice... the cell phone charger gods were looking out for you
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Her: Thanks again for inviting me. Your so sweet I had a wonderful
Well you’re always good company haha
In the previous example, the girl got really turned off and didn’t want to see
my client anymore - she thought he was a jerk. He didn’t mean to be... he
just didn’t know how to text her the right thing. Just one example (of many)
of how easy it is to screw things up.
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Worst of all, if you’ve got her number, there’s a good chance that a few
other guys do too... so her inbox is a literal battleground of guys vying for
her attention. Every message you send is another entry in a
competition for her time and her interest.
So that sucks. But we’re not out of the woods just yet.
DEALING WITH HER FEELINGS
Remember - women make the decision about whether or not to see you
again based on emotion, not logic. Based on how they feel about you.
Along those lines, here’s another important thing you need to
Feelings are “transmitted” across a number of “channels.” Your eyes, your
facial expression, your body language, your vocal tonality, and yes, the
words you speak.
So the best chance you have of making someone feel good about you is to
use all of your channels well. Good eye contact. Nice smooth vocal
tonality. Solid conversation and ﬂirtation. Great nonverbals.
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The fewer channels you have to work with, the harder it is to inﬂuence
Live, in-person is better than a video call. A video call is better than a
phone call. A phone call is better than texting.
Given how “narrow” of a channel texting is, you’re already at a
disadvantage. So why not just proclaim “I don’t do texting” and just call
Well, put yourself in a girl’s shoes for a second. She’s given her number
out to a few guys. The right move for her is to sit back and let them “duke it
out” for her interest. She can let the messages roll in, take her time to
respond to them, and see who she’s liking the most.
Girls say they like it when a guy calls them, but in my experience, it’s
almost never in your best interest. Especially with girls under 30. They
rarely pick up, so all it really does is brand you in a girl’s mind as “that guy
who really likes me because he called me.”
The one caveat - every now and then you need to do it when you’re
coordinating times for something - a movie, for example. But in general, if
someone is telling you that you should call a girl instead of texting her, you
can pretty much ignore them. It strips you of your power and value.
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And make no mistake - most guys just don’t have the power when they’re
trying to get a girl to go out with them. It’s just how the dating game is
A girl’s text message inbox is one of the most efﬁcient “guy
screening” tools ever invented.
So woe be upon you if - with this very narrow communication channel - you
can’t make her feel good about you.
Not only do you have to avoid making any dumb mistakes or turning her
off, but you also have to amplify her emotions towards you with every
additional text you send.
Rather than making her feel good on one phone call, you’ve got to
make her feel better and better about you over the course of ﬁve, ten
or twenty text messages.
And it never really ends, does it? Until you’re in a proper relationship with
her, you have to keep “getting it right” with texting. You really need to get
good at this stuff, because text messaging is the bridge between every time
that you see her.
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It’s become an integral part of the dating game.
High stakes. If you’ve ever felt like texting was unfair, annoying, or
frustrating, you probably now have a better understanding of why it feels
It’s literally a different form of communication than anything else out there.
Comparing texting to real conversation is like comparing English to
To carry the metaphor further: if you visited France but only spoke English,
it’d be pretty darn tough to connect with all of the beautiful women you’d
So let’s look at the “language” of texting.
THE LANGUAGE OF TEXTING
When you text a guy friend, think about what’s going on.
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You’re probably already his buddy. You’re not worried about him “having
other options” or “losing interest” if things don’t go right. And importantly,
you’re not trying to get into his pants or get him out on a date. Rigggggght?
Think of a text conversation you had with
one of your guy friends recently.
Chances are it wasn't emotional, or ﬂirty,
or sexy... I mean, I hope it wasn’t.
And if your buddy texts or calls you up just to “say hi” or “chat” about
whatever, chances are you’d wonder what drug he was on. I might even
give my friend an emoji slap if he pulled something like that with me. It’s
like “dude, we’ll talk when we hang out.”
The dynamics of texting your buddy just aren’t that complicated. It’s
information exchange, pure and simple.
But the dynamics of texting a girl involve two things:
1.) the speciﬁc words you choose to send her
2.) your subcommunication
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We’ll get to the speciﬁc words in a little bit. For now, let’s look at
subcommunication, because SO many guys mess this stuff up.
Here’s the deal:
When you text her, a girl is gathering so much more information than the
speciﬁc words you’re pecking out. For example, she’s paying attention to
! the time between messages: if you’re super quick to respond when
! you’re getting to know her, it’s going to subcommunicate that you’re
! whether or not you use emoticons: if you make occasional smilies
! and winky faces, it’s going to subcommunicate your positive and
! playful emotions.
! how enthusiastic, or “cool” you are to her: if you’re too cool at the
! wrong time (like in the post-sex example above) it could
! subcommunicate that you don’t care or are a jerk.
! your use of proper spelling and grammar: if you write your texts
! like you’d write a term paper, it’s going to subcommunicate that you
! are uptight and nervous.
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All of these dynamics are “under the radar” - that’s why we call them
subcommunication. But make no mistake, she can feel them.
If you mess this stuff up, it will absolutely KILL you. Funny thing is, I see a
lot of guys who are great at talking to girls in “real life” who don’t get the
texting subcommunication right.
Let’s look at another critique I did for a client. He had set up a date the
night before, and was texting her this day to conﬁrm it.
Client:&I hope you’re gearing up for a night you won’t forget. Did I say
id get u at 6 or 630? Either works for me
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& Heyyyy [nickname], ready to get some delish on tonizzight?
Running a lil late, so ! prolly closer to 7-ish for me.
Girl: Is like closer to 630 ok? Sorry its been a long day.
Client: No worries babe. I have the perfect evening planned out to
& For sure. I’m gonna squeeze in a quick run so just holla when
you’re about ready
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When you’re excited about a girl, you don’t think about stuff like this, but
she’s able to pick up on the “under the surface” stuff, loud and clear.
So that’s subcommunication.
There’s also the speciﬁc word choice: you’ve got a LOT less space to work
with than you do on a phone call or an in-person conversation. Every
word matters. And I’ve seen guys screw it up in all sorts of ways.
Some guys don’t get texting, period. They’re formal, and act like it’s a real
Some guys try to “overgame” a girl with cockiness. I see this one a lot.
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Some guys get WAY too silly or overeager, and the girl can’t take them
And so on...
Becoming “ﬂuent” in the language of texting isn’t something that comes
naturally to most of us.
Hey - no one said mastering a new language was going to be easy. But if
you’ve read this far, you’re already ten steps ahead of the next guy.
Because you now understand the key dynamics of text messaging. You
understand the “under the radar” stuff that most guys will never know. You
understand why the odds of the game aren’t in your favor.
And if this report ended here, it’d be pretty depressing. Good thing for you
that we’re just getting started.
A little later on in this report, I’m going to get into some very advanced
psychology and brain science. It’s for guys who want total control, total
power and total mastery.
But I know that not every client has the time or interest to devote to that.
They just want to get a girl out on a date.
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If that’s you, I get it. But I hope I’ve impressed upon you that it’s in your
best interest to get as good at this stuff as possible. I can give you
some good texts that will get a girl out on a date, but that doesn’t mean you
won’t screw it up somewhere else.
So I hope you’ll take advantage of everything that I’m making available to
you. Consider yourself warned if you’re just skimming, or looking for
Still with me? Nice.... onwards.
THE FIVE PHASES OF A TEXTING INTERACTION
At it’s most basic level, the goal of texting is VERY simple: to see a girl
again. As we discussed, texting is the bridge between when you see
her, and when you see her again.
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The advanced stuff we’ll get to later will basically accelerate her feelings
towards you so that she likes you a LOT more than she would if you were
just doing basic texting.
But hey, if - with some basic texting - you can consistently go out with every
girl whose number you get, you’re already in the top 10% of guys. Most
guys can’t even do that.
That’s because they don’t understand the 5 different “phases” of a texting
! 1.) SPORADIC: occasional texts back and forth. you’re usually
! initiating. gaps of 2-3 hours between texting
! 2.) RAPID RAPPORT: lots of texting back and forth. you’re usually
! initiating. gaps of 1-2 minutes between texts, with occasional breaks
! of 12-24 hours.
! 3.) SHE’S LEADING: lots of texting back and forth. she’s the one
! initiating. very short gaps between texts, with occasional breaks of
! 12-24 hours.
! 4.) RELATIONSHIP: lots of texting back and forth. both of you initiate.
! very short gaps between texts, with occasional breaks of 3-4 hours.
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! 5.) PURGATORY: you messed up. she’s not responding much or
! giving you a lot to work with. long gaps between responses.
Obviously, the goal is to go from Phase 1 to Phase 4, without ending up in
Phase 5. And the biggest mistake I see - besides sending lousy ﬁrst texts -
is that guys just wait too damn long to ask a girl out.
You can and should ask her out in Phase 1. Here’s an example from my
phone. Quick backstory: there is a pizza place here in New York called
Artichoke that is absolutely amazing. Also - when I met the girl who I’m
texting here, I mentioned that I was on a pretty strict low-carb diet.
me: carb withdrawal is bad today. just saw a child eating pizza and
thought about bribing him for a bite.
her: I’d pay to see you do that. Go get a slice somewhere and stop
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me: yeah, I can’t stop fantasizing about the white pizza at artichoke.
best in the city.
her: I’m slightly embarassed to say I’ve never had it :(
me: whaaaaaaaa... I was impressed to hear about all of your acting
and where your heart is in it, but this is a new and disappointing side
her: I know I know, I really need help.
me: ok I know what we’re doing next time I see you. I hope you like
your pizza crispy and delicious
her: I do I do! sounds amazing!
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me: niiiice. let’s make this dough/cheese/sauce-fest happen... how’s ur
From “ﬁrst text” to “asking her out” in ﬁve texts. And notice that there were
fairly large time gaps between our texts. This is all in the “sporadic” phase
of our exchange.
It doesn’t always happen this easily, but a good ﬁrst text can go a long way
in setting the right tone and making it easy to ask her out. There’s a lot of
other great stuff going on here, as well - speciﬁcally with the word choice.
But the important point is that it’s not hard to ask her out after just a few
good text messages.
Once you get further along into the phases, you can really start to have
some fun. Here’s an example of a technique that I call “Fauxmance” a.k.a.
false romance. It’s a very fun way to ﬂirt with a girl. I’m using it here in
Phase 3 (She’s Leading).
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her: Hey Mr. Important, so what are you up to today?
me: getting my hustle on so we can go on that romantic cruise we’ve
been talkin about, and enjoy champagne under the mediterranean moon.
Obviously, I have no intention of taking a girl who I’m just getting to know
on a mediterranean cruise. But it’s a funny and romantic sentiment. Girls
love this sort of stuff if you do it at the right time.
Notice something else in there. I didn’t end the my text with a question like
“how about you?” That’s because I already know she’s leading, and will be
sending me a follow up. When she’s leading, the goal is to make sure that
she keeps leading, asking more questions, and moving things along.
Why? Well, let’s ﬂip the situation for a second. Think about a time when
you were texting a girl, and you felt like you had to keep putting effort and
work into the interaction. It made you feel like she was a little more
important than you, didn’t it? It kept you on the edge of your seat, making
sure that you wrote the right thing.
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Well, that’s the exact thing we’re trying to do here. I use the fauxmance
technique because it gives her a “shot” of emotional energy that will get her
feeling really good, and will ensure that she keeps leading for awhile.
Once you know which phase you’re in, it’s easy to apply the right technique
at the right time, and make the next date happen.
And the faster you can do that, the more fun you’ll have, and the more that
YOU will be the one in control of your dating life.
HOW TO TURN THE GAME ON IT’S HEAD
AND BEAT THE ODDS
Think about all of the things that drive you nuts about texting...
- spending ﬁve or ten minutes on each message because you want to it to
- wondering if you sent the wrong message, and screwed things up
- waiting patiently for a response, your heart racing with every passing hour
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- feeling like you have no power or control - that your fate is in her hands
Wouldn’t it be great if you never had to deal with those things ever again?
And even better, what if you could ﬂip them around, so that...
- she spent ﬁve or ten minutes on every message she sent you, wanting it
to be perfect
- she nervously wondered if you would respond favorably to what she wrote
- she sat by her phone anxiously, hoping beyond hope that you’d write her
- she felt like you had all the power and control - that her happiness was in
Well, it just so happens that I’ve discovered some psychological “hacks”
and “backdoors” with texting that can consistently and reliably make that
Use them right, and you will literally get a girl addicted to you. The science
behind this is going to blow you away.
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Become a master of this, and she will be sitting by her phone, anxiously
awaiting your next text... trying to prove herself to you in every message
she sends... and vividly fantasizing about what will happen when she meets
up with you.
The techniques are based on proven, inescapable science and psychology.
Learning this stuff is going to give you powers that few men will ever
Sound good? Then let’s get on with it.
THE PSYCHOLOGICAL “HACK”
THAT GIVES YOU CONTROL
I need you to follow me here. This is important.
There’s a chemical in your brain called dopamine. It’s the neurotransmitter
that gets released when you’re rewarded by something - think sex, or a
delicious bite of food.
Dopamine makes you feel good.
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And not surprisingly, dopamine is released when you get a text from a girl
But you’re not the only one who gets the dopamine squirt. When you
“speak the language of texting” properly, her dopamine system gets
And when you get really good, you can put a girl into a "dopamine induced
loop" where she is literally addicted to texting you (and the only thing that
will satiate her addiction is to be with you).
It all happens with word choice and subcommunication, and the emotions
they create in her. It’s the ultimate psychological hack.
Sounds insane, I know. I couldn’t believe it when I discovered this either.
Stick with me.
HOW TO “CONDITION” HER FEELINGS FOR YOU
Once you get really good at texting, you’ll stop looking at your cell phone
the same way.
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It's not just a "tool for communication".
The cell-phone is a pleasure device.
Whether you want to get her on a date... whether you want her as your
girlfriend... whether you want her in your bedroom... you're going to know
without a shadow of a doubt that she wants what you want.
After I discovered this, it saved my clients hours of time and effort that they
used to put into dates. It cut out the uncertainty of not knowing what would
happen when they met up with a girl. It was the ultimate dating short-cut.
Here’s what’s up:
! BAD texting causes no emotion inside of her. There are no
! chemicals - dopamine or otherwise - being released in her brain, so
! she feels indifferent towards you.
! GOOD text messaging conditions her responses and feelings
! towards you. You can train her to associate whatever emotion you
! want with you.
But before this "training" metaphor causes any trouble, I want to make one
thing completely clear:
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WOMEN ARE NOT DOGS. DON’T EVEN THINK ABOUT GOING THERE.
I absolutely love the women in my life. I respect their humanity and do
everything I can to celebrate their inner and outer beauty. I hope you will
do the same with the women in your life.
With that said...both men and women react like dogs in response to text
We’ll use you as an example.
Let's say you are texting back and forth with a girl you're really attracted to.
She's doing some of the texting tricks that I’ll give you in a moment (women
are naturally good at this stuff).
Every time you get a message from her, you feel a rush of positive
But let's say she hasn't texted you back for a few hours... you're beginning
to get worried... when all of a sudden you feel your phone buzzes, alerting
you that you've got a new message.
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As you reach for your phone, your heart rate increases, and the dopamine
starts pouring into your neural receptors. You feel a wave of anticipation as
you open up the message...
Only to discover that the text message was from your Mom!
Bummer... the emotion dies down down as you feel a twinge of
But that doesn't change the fact that you still felt a burst of desire when
your phone went on.
Why did you feel these things?
Because it was a conditioned response to her previous text messages. You
had been trained to feel that way, based on the messages she sent you
This is called "Pavlovian Conditioning". It was ﬁrst used on dogs in
psychology experiments in the 1920s, and it has proved true in humans as
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Here’s how it works with humans: when John creates positive emotional
responses in Mary, she can be conditioned to associate those responses
with an outside stimuli.
To put it simply - it means that you can condition her to feel a rush of
positive emotions, and immediately think of you, the second her phone
goes off... every time.
I hope you understand what this means for you...
Anytime she gets a text... even if it’s not from you... she thinks of you, and
gets more excited about seeing you again.
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Just imagine the emotions that are going on inside of her...
You've done everything right. You've activated her dopamine system, and
successfully associated it with you.
She is sitting by herself, in hot anticipation of your next message to her.
And when someone else messages her, all in the span of less than 10
seconds, she feels a positive rush of dopamine, and a negative feeling of
That mix of positive and negative emotions is exactly what causes
addiction, on a psychological level.
It's like drugs - the positive feeling of an intense high, and the inevitable
comedown. That's how people become addicted to anything.
And we've just short-circuited the process, so the addiction grows in
intensity every time she gets a text.
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...AND NOW SHE’S ADDICTED
TO HEARING FROM YOU
A study of teens who frequently used text-messaging in the Seattle area
came to this conclusion:
"They get withdrawal-like systems if they don't have their phone or
someone doesn't return a text quickly" (source = Q13 Fox News).
Are you beginning to see how this stuff can bring on a climatic feeling in
It's because this rush of chemicals activates a girl's "pleasure center".
Yep, the same pleasure center where she experiences sexual fulﬁllment.
If you have a hard time believing that girls can get
completely turned on with a simple message on their
phone, then how about this one:
Brain Doctor Michael Seyffert concluded, "Neuro-
imaging studies have shown that those [people] who
are texting have that area of their brain light up the
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same as an addict using heroin."
And it happens because you followed the proven formula to activating her
pleasure center with your text messaging.
Look, don't get me wrong... this is some intense stuff we're talking about
And most guys will never be able to elicit these responses in a girl they like.
But you’re going to be one step ahead of all the other guys in her phone
who are texting her.
And we've gone into a lot of theory, and jargon. So let's tie it back to what
you actually want to do when you text her.
What kind of texts activate her brain's pleasure center?
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HOW TO TAP INTO HER PLEASURE CENTER
WITH YOUR PHONE
There are three things that every guy who’s great at texting knows how to
! 1.) Stimulate Her Emotions: This is always the ﬁrst thing you’ve got
! to do, because it’s going to set you apart from other guys in her
! phone, and make her ! enjoy her texting with you. What emotions do
! you want to stimulate? More on ! that in a second.
! 2.) Be Unpredictable: This is the ﬁrst psychological hack we’ll use.
! You’ll vary up the style, length, and emotions in your texts, so that
! she’s left “wondering” about you - in a good way!
! 3.) Create Anticipation: This is the second psychological hack that
! we’ll use. You will send texts and manage your subcommunications
! in a way that leaves her “hanging”.
When you do all three of these things right, you’ll stir up a potent cocktail of
dopamine in her brain, and make her very excited about you.
Why do THESE three things work in concert to get her so addicted to you?
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Because, when you get them right, they get the girl to invest in you.
Her ﬁrst “investment” is small. A quick response to your ﬁrst text.
Then there are a few texts exchanged, and she starts investing a little
more. She starts thinking about the “right” thing to send you.
Soon, she’s thinking about you a lot - about the fun times she’ll have with
you. She’s “investing” in you even when you’re not texting her.
Before you know it, she’s sending you naughty
texts about stuff that she wants to do with you.
She doesn’t do this for just anyone - she’s WAY
invested in you.
And if you play poker, or know anything about it,
then what’s the ultimate form of investment?
When you do the three things I just told you about, you’ll build her
investment in you to the point where she’s literally all-in.
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Her subconscious thought process goes something like this, "well... I’ve
been texting him a LOT... and I put a lot of thought into my texts... so I
MUST really like him."
Psychologists call this an "escalation of commitment".
Doctor Barry M. Staw, expert in Behavior and Psychology at University of
California Berkeley, Haas School of Business, ﬁrst discovered this principle
in 1976. And the rule is that humans justify their actions based on
you how to make this happen. But let’s cover some high level stuff right
STIMULATE HER EMOTIONS
This is the “anchor” of good texting. It’s the thing that’s going to get her
stuck on hearing from you. When you stimulate her emotions properly,
you’re going to get her dopamine system going.
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Text God Program is full of texts and exchanges that show
And a great place to start is by making her smile and laugh. Think about
two of the good ﬁrst texts you’ve read about so far:
“ur dress last night = weapon of mass destruction. i trust you put it
somewhere that the CIA won’t find it”
“carb withdrawal is bad today. just saw a child eating pizza and
thought about bribing him for a bite.”
Both of those are engineered to make her smile and laugh. There is some
funny visual imagery, and there are some “hooks” for her to grab onto.
Another Phase 1+ technique (i.e. you can use it in Phase 1, or any point
thereafter) I’ll use with a girl is the multi-line - you take multiple lines to type
out a few words. It’s silly and childish, but it has never failed to get a great
response from a girl.
Her: Yeah that last round of shots was nothing but trouble, I’m so
hung over today.
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Me: can barely type
Her: LOL that bad huh? You poor thing!!
This messages will also make her smile and laugh, “stimulating” her
emotions in a way that gets her feeling good. And if she always felt good
when she texted you, she’d probably want to keep texting you, right?
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But there are other emotions that take you texting from “enjoyable” to
“addictive” for her. And that’s where we get to point two.
Dopamine is stimulated by unpredictability.
Behavioral Psychologist Susan Weinschenk, in a study on texting,
discovered that, "When something happens that is not exactly predictable,
that stimulates the dopamine system... texts show up, but we don't know
exactly when they will or who they will be from. It's unpredictable."
This means that you CAN'T be predictable in your texts or responses to her
texts. If she knows that every message you send is going to be funny, or
make her laugh, she’ll be able to “peg” you as predictable... and
predictability is boring... so you can’t keep hitting the same emotional
buttons again and again.
Another emotion that’s GREAT to stimulate in a girl is deﬁance. Yep, you
read that right. Once you’ve got some investment (and ONLY then), you
can challenge her a little bit.
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One of my favorite second dates in New York City is to start somewhere
swanky - usually the Oak Room bar at the Plaza Hotel - then head
somewhere dive-y. And my dive of choice is called Ace Bar. Besides the
rock n’ roll ambiance, Ace Bar has two skeeball lanes. Makes the date fun,
active and even lets us do some betting for kisses and more. Here’s an
example of me switching things up in a text message, challenging a girl,
and her getting a little deﬁant.
me: alright, so it’s on... I just hope you are
ok with losing at skeeball
her: whatever, you are gonna get smoked. I can hit the 50 with my
me: all I can say is you better not plan on betting anything u don’t
want to lose
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This sort of texting can “charge up” her emotions heading into a date, and
create some really good, playful tension that only gets released when
kissing happens ;)
There’s a LOT more you can do with unpredictability. Of course, you’ve got
to be careful with this one. In
a guy tries to trigger deﬁance, but doesn’t have enough investment, and
ends up pissing the girl off royally.
But when you get this stuff right, oh man... it takes you from “a guy she
likes texting” to “the only guy she wants to hear from.”
Even better - there’s still one more “psychological hack” we can use to get
her even more into you.
Brain scan research shows that the dopamine system gets overwhelmingly
stimulated when someone anticipates a reward. In fact, anticipation is
even more powerful than fulﬁllment.
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Text God , I include case studies where
In other words, you secrete more dopamine in the moments leading up to a
kiss, than you do when you’re actually kissing.
Applying this to texting, the key is to build anticipation that she’ll feel for
your next text, by sending texts that leave her wanting more.
For example, a lot of guys send long text messages to girls. They leave no
stone unturned in their message, and they go into great detail about things.
They tell a girl every little detail about their lives.
But in order to build anticipation, you can't give her EVERYTHING at once.
You should text her incomplete responses.
This works because of the "Zeigarnick Effect", the psychological effect that
proves that when we transmit an incomplete thought to someone... when
we leave certain key details out of our text messages... their mind ﬁxates
on it until it's completed.
When you use my texting techniques that employ the Zeigarnick Effect, you
have to be careful... you will quickly develop the power to make her
instantly ﬁxated on you and even obsessed with you, because every text
message causes her mind to associate you with an array of addictive
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One of my favorite ways to create anticipation is with what I call the “short
text.” You use it when you’re in Phase 2 - Rapid Rapport. As a reminder,
this is when she’s quick to reply to your texts, and you’re texting her fairly
frequently. That usually starts to happen after the ﬁrst date, or with a girl
who you’ve met through a social circle.
So let’s say you’ve been texting back and forth with her for about 30
minutes straight, and she asks how your afternoon is looking. you’re going
to send her a one or two-word, very short text, and then drop it.
her: so how’s your afternoon looking?
her: nice, what’s going on?
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me: heyyyyy got pulled into a meeting... damn crazy day, I think a gin
and tonic is in my near future ;)
her: oh no! hope everything is ok!! and I have to admit that drinking
tonight sounds pretty good.
Why does this work? Well, after 30 minutes of back-and-forth, she’s
conditioned to expect a fast response from you. Then... boom: a one-word
response, and no follow up for three hours. It creates all sorts of questions
in her mind: did she say the wrong thing? Is everything ok with you?
What’s happening that she doesn’t know about?
It’s all happening in the subcommunications. It’s unpredictable, and for
those next three hours, her brain is releasing some dopamine every time a
text message comes in... she’s hoping it’s from you, so she can get
“closure” on why you didn’t write back to her.
Critically, when you ﬁnally reply, it needs to be something sweet, fun, and
explanatory. I’ve seen guys screw up the short text by being too
nonchalant when they get back to the girl. Doing that will only make her
put her guard up.
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The principle here is to create anticipation... then release it in a way that
makes her brain go “ahhhhhhh.”
And if I had to take a guess, I’m willing to be that a girl has done something
like this to you... right?
Now you know why it made you feel the way it did, AND how you can use it
THIS WORKS ESPECIALLY WELL
IF SHE STOPS RESPONDING
You’d be surprised how easy it is to get a girl to start responding to you
Even if you've already been on a date or two, and things have dropped
You need re-activate her pleasure centers again. It's a little more work this
time, because she's not as invested.
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Here's how you should think of it...
Pretend that you had bet on (or in other words, “invested in”) a horse at the
racetrack. You think it’s a winner, but it loses the race. The jockey would
probably have to put in a little work to make you bet on it again.
... But the possibility is still there because you really wanted it to win in the
You'd be skeptical, but you'd be even more invested the second time
around because you really wanted your belief to pay off.
So once you get that investment back again, she will feel even more
powerful emotions for you than before.
And not every guy has the power to do that. Very few do. But it’s yours if
you want it:
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HOW TO “SOLVE” THIS TEXT-MESSAGING THING
I care about the success of the guys who want to learn from me, and I put a
lot of time and effort into creating QUALITY material. I research the stuff I
put out, I live it, and - because my real name is on it - I make sure that
There is a lot of gimmicky marketing out there, but I’m going to assume that
you’re smart enough to discern between the good stuff, and the snake oil.
As I look back through this report, I’m thinking to myself “wow, there was a
lot of good stuff in there.” And I hope you feel the same.
You should now have a basic understanding of why and how you need to
shift the dynamics of a texting interaction into your favor. We went over the
proven psychological principles that, when used properly, will cause any girl
in your phonebook to feel attraction towards you - and ultimately start liking
you a lot, and even becoming addicted to receiving your messages.
My goal is always to help clients understand why something works before
getting into the nitty-gritty "how-to" stuff.
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I need to teach you how to ﬁsh, instead of just giving you a ﬁsh, because
new women will always be coming up with new stuff to keep you on your
With what you’ve learned here today, you are going to have a huge leg up
over just about every other guy who’s sending texts to the girls you’re
interested in. I’ve given you a lot of theory, and a lot of practical techniques
that you can use to text the girls in your phone book. First texts, tips on how
to ask ‘em out... and how to start getting that dopamine loop kicking ;)
So you can take what you’ve learned here, and go it alone. If you spend
some time on this stuff, and don’t mind burning through some numbers
along the way, I’m sure you can take these principles and get some really
good results with them.
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